Relax Sis, in due time!
I’m sis, this is for me, and it could be for you too! What’s the rush? What is this timeline that we have out on ourselves, one society and social media tries to push… this narrative that if a, b, and c, aren’t accomplished or checked off by this age you've failed?! Believing that we are behind in life; how is that even a thing? When did we start letting external opinions and people dictate how successful we are according to them? Oh, okay… What we do know is that everyone grows at a different pace, much like flowers?! Like taking a test that everyone gets at the same time, but no one ever finishes at the same time. Our journey is different from everyone else’s, we all have the goal to get to the finish line but if we’ve ever watched a race, we notice that each stride is different, each pace and posture is different, but the end result doesn’t change; crossing the finish line “winning.” The win isn’t in claiming first place but finishing, don’t let that go over your head.
I know you (like myself) have things that you want to accomplish and desires that you’re ready to see fulfilled. I want you to know that it’s going to happen; just not on your timing, stop worrying and stressing yourself out over these things you have no control over. Keep going, keep striving to accomplish these things. We get so caught up in worry that we stop working, wishing things will fall out of the sky. Better isn’t going to fall into your lap, happiness, and peace; are things to be worked for. As if waiting on the next chapter to happen in order to finally be happy and content with “the big moment”- your moment will happen. Changes are a healthy part of life, but they aren’t necessarily the thing that is going to push us forward and elevate us the way we think. We may not be ready for the things we are asking for or ready to obtain. Has it been considered that these things may seem out of reach for a reason, they may not even be for us at all? When rushing to the next chapter or phase of our lives we miss out on the present moment. This disadvantages us from growth and lessons that were meant to be learned.
We aren’t able to operate in a space of gratitude if our focus is constantly on the future rather than where we currently are. Gratitude and patience are key during this learning phase, we can’t expect to skip the practice of these two components. Personal development is ongoing, and we have to embrace every phase of our journey, believe me, it’s not always pretty pulling back the layers but there is great gain in learning about yourself through it. Acceptance and grace are two friends that you want to keep in your circle, you really have to be your number one girl. Show up for yourself sis, you deserve support and a constant cheerleader, sometimes you won’t even know how to show up for yourself, do it anyway! I have to be honest I’m emotional writing this piece, this is really hitting home for me. You can have all the support in the world and some seasons really leave you feeling alienated and isolated. It’s in these moments I’m reminded of the scripture (Deuteronomy 31:6-8). These moments are meant for us to learn and grow into ourselves as individuals, it’s in these moments that we develop strength, temperance, and patience. We learn more about ourselves here than any other time, there are some seasons of our lives that others cannot particularly help us get through. There are things we have to do alone, lessons to be learned alone, we have to be broken down in order to be built up.
Pace yourself!
Xo, Tee